Stop Letting Small Things Steal Your Joy and Connection

As entrepreneurs, we often fall into a destructive habit without even realizing it: letting small things steal our joy and connection with the people who matter most. Maybe someone didn’t text you back, didn’t invite you to an event, or said something that rubbed you the wrong way and suddenly your mind starts running. You overthink, criticize, and replay the situation until you’re frustrated, angry, and emotionally drained.

This habit doesn’t just hurt your relationships it robs your energy, your focus, and your happiness. It keeps you stuck in a cycle of negativity when you should be moving forward in your entrepreneurial journey.

During this episode, I share how I used to live trapped in this pattern isolating myself, wasting years of my life, and letting negativity take over my business and well-being. And more importantly, I’ll walk you through how to break free from this bad habit, shift your focus back to love, gratitude, and connection, and build healthier habits that actually fuel your success.

Because the truth is, the people in your life are a big reason you’ll succeed. They’re the ones who support you, encourage you, and give you energy when setbacks come. When you stop letting small things steal your joy, you create stronger connections, live with more fulfillment, and show up as a happier, more powerful entrepreneur.

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Transcript

 Hey everyone. Welcome to the Breakthrough Entrepreneurs Show, where we empower entrepreneurs to overcome the challenge of work-life balance, burnout, break bad, old, unhealthy, negative habits, behaviors, build new habits, create new rituals, new routines. I'm your host, Mohammed Farra, and today our topic is stop letting small things steal your joy and connection.

Many of us have this bad habit in our subconscious mind, and this habit was built. Through life before in the past, but we haven't noticed that this habit is keeping us stuck. This bad habit. It moves people from our life. It robs our happiness, our healthy life. So in this episode, I'm going to talk about this topic and I'm going to talk about people in your life.

How important they are and they matter, and they are the reason that you are going to break through in your entrepreneurial life, that you are going to achieve your goals, make your dreams come true, and live a successful and fulfilled and happy, healthy life. So many of us have these bad habits of being envy or sensitive, constantly frustrated, feeling anxious, stressed.

Why? Because we keep focusing on the small stuff, on the small things in our life. So we constantly. Analyze and evaluate people in our circle, people that we are surrounded with. The the ones who we love, who we care, who we believe in, the ones who loves us, who supports us, who always help us whenever we need their help.

The people that they are in your life and they are with you in your entrepreneurial journey. They support you with love, with care. They support you emotionally. They support you by encouraging you, by motivating you, by showing their love, their care, their belief, their trust on you. So even though some.

Things can happen in life. Life happens, and sometimes some people, maybe they do something wrong or they make a mistake or they say something wrong, or maybe it's been a while and you haven't heard any greeting from them, or maybe they haven't sent you any SMS or a message or email, or they haven't called you, or maybe there was an.

Event, or maybe there was like a birthday party and you felt like they didn't invite you, you weren't invited, and then your brain works on just focusing on the event, focusing on what happened, focusing on what other peoples have done to you or they did to you. So you start to feel, think. Negative about those people.

You bring old past negative thoughts, feelings, emotions, and your brain is like a factory. You're just running, running, running, and just focusing and analyzing and thinking constantly about that event, about that thing that happened. You are consuming. You are wasting so much energy, so much time, so much effort in your body.

You don't realize how destructive this cycle is. You are impacting yourself. You are hurting yourself. You are falling back to bad negative habits, but you don't know because. You feel like you have fallen into a trap and you are constantly just focusing on that event, focusing on something happened with those people, and you start to feel frustrated, negative, angry, pissed off, and you feel sorry for yourself.

You feel sad, you feel emotionally. Sad, and you start to feel like you bring more stories into your mind. Those people, they don't like me. They don't care about me. They don't show me their love, they don't ask about me. They forgot me. They ignore me. I feel like I'm isolated. They don't think about me. They don't give me so much credit.

Even though I help them, even though I support them, even though I love them, I care about them, but seems like they're dry. They don't return back. So you start to think and feel and bring so many negative, unhealthy, bad thoughts, feelings, emotions into your body, and you're just impacting your life and you're impacting your business.

Imagine. How you feel when you have started your day just thinking and feeling negatively about people in your life, and you feel like your day is not fun, your day is not enjoyable, your day is not full with happiness, with wins, with progress, with fulfillment, with achievements. 'cause your brain, your subconscious mind is just repeating.

Working like a factory. They did this to me. They didn't invite me. They said this to me. They ignore me. They don't like me. They don't care so much about me. They don't love me. Maybe I'm not the right person for them. I should remove them from my life. I should isolate myself. I should separate myself. I should not meet up with them.

I should not accept their invitation next time. I promise you, I used to be this person. I swear God, before when I used to be my old virgin, before I transformed my own life, I used to be that person and I wasted months, years, I promise you. I wasted months, years just thinking, feeling negative about other people, just criticizing them, blaming them, looking negatively at them.

And isolate myself, separate myself. I don't want to meet them. I don't want to accept their invitations. I don't want to talk to them. And I kept doing this. And imagine what kind of life I lived in my own entrepreneurial life. Imagine. Imagine. How did I feel that day? Imagine how did I live that day?

Terrible, negative days. Weeks, months. I Why? Because I was constantly practicing this bad habit. I was building this bad habit. So every time I got tired, every time something went wrong, every time I failed, every time I woke up late, every time I was stressed, overwhelmed my brain. Would be triggered and I would just bring those stories EV again in my life.

And it's like a cycle. It's like a loop. Same thing like a factory. They did this to me. They don't like me. They don't give a shit about me. They don't care about me. They're selfish people. They're envy. They only care about themselves. They don't care about others. They just want things, but they don't give me anything.

They don't return back my love. They don't return back my, my care, my feelings, my emotions. See, I started to feel and think like that and imagine the life that I lived in, my old version, and I'm sure you are listening to me and I'm sure. You've experienced the same thing in your life as a world. 'cause this is normal.

So many of us, unfortunately, we live a life without paying attention. Without being aware of our thoughts, of our emotions and feelings. We don't become conscious of our thoughts, of our automatic or. Our thoughts, feelings that run in autopilot mood. We just accept them. We just focus on them. We just give them so much attention.

We bring so many negative, bad thoughts, feelings, emotions, into our life and. Sometimes we wonder why we are not living a happy, successful, and healthy and fulfilled life. If you've spent your day, you are weak. Your month thinking and feeling negatively about your friends, about some people in your life.

Maybe they come from different cultures, from different traditions, and you judge them. You criticize them. You blame them for not socializing with you, for not interacting with you, for not asking about you, for not caring about you, for not contacting you, for not meeting up with you, for not inviting you to their events.

You blame them. You judge them. You criticize them, but you don't ask yourself why. Why am I feeling like this? Why am I thinking like this? Me as an entrepreneur, I have goals. I have dreams. I have a family that I'm responsible of supporting. I have a vision for my future. I have so much work to do. I have a to-do list.

I have. Morning routine and evening routine. I have habits, rituals that I need to make sure that I repeat, that I build, that I implement. I have so much projects, tasks, activities, meetings, sales calls, conferences. I have all that. Why the hell would I just waste my time, waste my energy, waste my effort, waste a big chunk of my life.

Instead of focusing on those things, on those calls, on those meetings, instead of focusing on my projects, focusing on my task is focusing on my goals and dreams, focusing on my healthy life, on my family's healthy life, focusing on my vision of the future. I. Continue focusing on other people, and I just sit, analyze them while working, thinking negatively about them, evaluate them.

Are they nice to me? Are they kind to me? Do they invite me? Do they show me their love, their care? Should I have them in my life? Should I keep them in my life? Some days when things are going well. When life feels awesome, when you are making progress, when you are achieving, when you are winning, when you are getting closer to your goals, to your outcome, when you get results, when you feel like you are moving forward in your life, in your business, you never criticize them.

You never say any negative thing about them instead. You keep reminding yourself, I love them. I care about them. They're a part of my life. My friends, the people in my circle in my life, they are very important to me. They mean so much to my heart. Why? Why don't you criticize them in that day? Why you don't think or feel negative about them?

So whenever those negative thoughts, feelings, emotions, shows up. In your life as an entrepreneur, whether if you are working from home, whether if you are alone in your journey, whether if you don't have a team, whether if you feel like your sleep was disrupted, so you couldn't get enough sufficient good quality sleep, whether if you tired, whether if you are exhausted or burned out.

It doesn't mean that you start to evaluate and you start to think and feel negative about those people. My friends, if you are tired, if you feel exhausted, if you are tired in your brain, if you feel like you have a low energy, go out, take a walk, take a break, rest your body, do some relaxation exercises, move your body, do some workout.

Do some travel. Travel somewhere. Stay away from your workplace for, I don't know, for a few days or a week. Take a break, take a vacation, go visit those friends. Go out, visit some nature instead of just evaluating and criticizing people. I find that. Whenever we feel unhealthy, when we are feeling a little bit bored or when we feel tired, exhausted, our brain goes to negativity, so we start to evaluate people.

But the problem is, the problem is not with those people. It's not that they have did this to you, or they have said this to you, or they have done this to you, or maybe they ignored you one day or I don't know, in some particular event. But it doesn't mean that the people, they don't like you. It doesn't mean that they don't want you.

In their life. It doesn't mean that they don't show you their love, their care, because everyone is different. Everyone comes from different culture, different tradition. I have friends from the US, from America. I have friends from Canada. I have friends from Sweden. I have friends from Africa, but I don't evaluate them when they do, when they do something wrong.

When. They have made something that made me feel anxious or little disappointed or surprised, but I don't judge them. I don't react. I don't think about isolating myself from them. So I start to think and feel positive about my life. I remind myself I'm happy, I'm fulfilled instead of feeling frustrated.

Angry, anxious, and having a bad mood, or thinking and feeling negatively about those people. Instead, replace that with positive energy. Love them. Show them how much you care about them. Send them that SMS. Call them, ask about them. Write something very nice to them when you meet them. Make a compliment.

Tell them how wonderful they are, how great they are, how, how much they mean to you. Share with them your progress. Share with them your work, the work that you've done, that you complete. Share with them, your wins, your achievements, your accomplishments. Share with them, your goals with you and your dreams, and.

Show them how much you love them, how much you are passionate, how much you are grateful, how much you are thankful in life for having them in your life. Because every time you share your achievements, your wins, your progress, your accomplishments with those people, every time you remind yourself that you are not.

Alone in this entrepreneurial journey, you are not alone in this business. You are not alone in this company. You are not alone in your entrepreneurship. That there are people in your life that they are with you. They are supporting you. They are standing for you whenever you fail. Whenever you need help, you ask them.

You request. You bring those people into your life. You tell them about your setbacks, your challenges, they will help you. They will stand for you. They will do whatever it takes to stand and support you. So share with them your happiness. Share with them your progress. I'm successful. I'm awesome. I'm wonderful.

I, there's nothing wrong with me. There's nothing wrong with my life. Even when people do something wrong, even when people, they have done some small stuff, but it doesn't mean that I would make my life miserable. 'cause when we are constantly reacting and evaluating and judging people, this robs our happiness.

We live. Unhappy life. We live unfulfilled life. We live, I isolated. We isolate ourself from the community, from social life, from friends, and imagine what kind of life you will live when you separate yourself from people. So we feel very unhealthy in our days. We don't feel energized. So when you stop this.

Habit. When you break this bad, negative, unhealthy habit from your conscious mind and make a decision and start a new life, open a new page in your life and keep reminding yourself that from now on, I have made a decision. I opened a new page in my life that I am not going to have any anxious. Negative, unhealthy feelings or thinking about other people.

I'm gonna transform my life. I'm gonna start a new life, a new journey that is free from being anxious, sensitive, free from selfishness, free from envy, from. Free from just thinking about negative things. I want to focus on the positive things. I want to focus on what I'm grateful for. I want to focus on God given gifts in my life.

You see those people, those friends, they love you. They care about you. They accept you in their life. In their life. They share the same feelings, the same thoughts, the same emotions about you if you love them, they love you as much as you love them. If you care about them, they care about you as much as you care about them.

When you help them, when you support them, when you stand for them, they never forget what you have done for them. So they're with you in this entrepreneurial journey. They are. They will be a big reason of your success when you succeed in your entrepreneurship, when you make your dreams come true, they're a big reason in your entrepreneurship journey.

Why? Because they have very positive effect on your journey, on your health, on your wellbeing. They're the ones who. Are a part of your happiness. They make you happy every time you meet, meet them. Every time you invite them, every time you visit them, every time you talk to them, you sit with them. They ask you about your business, about your work, about your days, about your week, so they generate so much en energy in your life.

Whenever you meet those people, you come back home, you come back to your work feeling happy, excited, driven, motivated, fulfilled, and they speed up your performance. You work faster, you stay consistent with your business. Even when you meet setbacks, failures, mistakes, challenges, those people, they push you forward.

They encourage you, they support you. They motivate you. They help you stay aligned with your goals, with your ambitious, despite life adversity. So do not ignore them. Do not forget them. Bring them to your heart. Hold on to those people. Keep them in your heart. Keep them in your mind whenever your mind goes, they did this to me.

They don't like you. They don't care about you. They don't believe in you. They don't say no, say to those thoughts them on you. Those are the same thoughts. Those are the same thoughts. Those are the same feelings, emotions that kept you stuck before, that prevented you from being a healthy, happy, fulfilled entrepreneur.

The same thoughts, the same feelings, the same emotions keep you stuck, stagnant, and miserable in your entrepreneurial life. They're isolating you from your people. And why would you listen? Why would you pay attention to those thoughts, to those feelings, to those emotions? Why would you let them ruin and impact your life?

Life is very short, my friends. We can live alive, alive with happiness, with love, with compassion, with care. With glory, feeling proud of ourself, feeling healthy, feeling achievable, or we could just sit all day long, every day, seven days a week, 30 days a month, and end our year and just thinking, feeling negative about other people.

Imagine, look back at your last year. Look at. Your last six months, look at your last week, have you been just criticizing, blaming, evaluating, and thinking, feeling about other people, what they have done, how if they were nice to you or not, or what they did, what they said. If you look at, if you look back at that last year, that last six months, that last week, you would find yourself, you lived those days, you wasted your time, you wasted your energy, you wasted your effort for nothing.

It's only you who got impact by those thoughts, by those feelings, emotions, by that bad habit. You lived an unhappy, unfulfilled, unhealthy life. You wasted those days. You wasted that year, but you could have lived a happy, fulfilled, achievable life in those last year, in that, in those last six months, in that last week.

We need to make decision and we need to always bring positive thoughts, feelings, emotions about those people. Continue loving them. Stay consistent with love, care, believe, and trust with the people in your circle in your life. If we want to become a very successful entrepreneurs in our life. We should always seek to help support and show love, care, compassion to other people, people in our circle, our friends, our relatives, our families, our our clients, our audience, our community.

We should always help them improve their life and help them make their dreams come true and. We should not let any negativity in our life because this is mentioned in the Think and Grow Rich book by Napoleon Hill, Napoleon Hill. He mentions the same habit. In the book, he talks about this habit where we are.

We have built this. Subconscious bad habit where we are constantly thinking negative about other people and focusing on the small stuff, and we are just holding on that habit. Instead of just letting it go, instead of breaking that bad habit, instead of reprogramming our subconscious mind to live a happy, healthy, successful, and fulfilled life.

Because the only thing that is blocking you. The only thing that is preventing you from being healthy, happy, fulfilled entrepreneur is that you have that bad habit. Of constantly being selfish envy or you are thinking or feeling negative about those people in your life, and you just ignore your health.

You ignore your happiness and you put your power, all your energy, all your time, all your effort only on small stuff, but you don't realize how destructive. Those thoughts, feelings, emotions. You don't realize how destructive that subconscious bad habit in your life. So my friends, break this bad habit, replace it with a habit of love, care, compassion, and so much feelings.

Help those people love them as much as possible. Show them who you are. Show them how kind you are. Show them how wonderful you are. Show them how amazing you are. Show them how lovable you are. Show them how unique you are. Show them how special you are. Show them how elegant you are. Show them how much you love them, how much you care about them, how much you believe in them, and how much you are willing to help them, to support them, to stand for them every step of the way in your life.

'cause my friend's life is too short. You know, tomorrow we will die and we can die after living a happy, successful, fulfilled life, or we can die and we just live a life with not. Feeling happy, feeling unhealthy, negative, miserable, isolated, lonely, because bad habits make you feel lonely, bad habits. They make you feel unhealthy.

They isolate you from the type of person that you are meant to be. So do not let that bad habit impact your entrepreneurial life. Let the good, positive, healthy habits, rituals, routines, fuel your journey. Let them make you become the person that you always dream to be. Let those habits. Routines and rituals.

Build that new version of you transform your life and your business, and when you love others, when you care about others, when you believe in others, when you trust in others, you do the same with your own family. You love them as much as you do for others. You care about them as much as you care about others.

Because if we don't love those people, if we don't care about those people, we become very sensitive. We become very selfish. And this reflects on even our family. Even when our family do something wrong or a mistake or they say something wrong or they don't behave very well, we do the same. We isolate ourself.

We get divorced. We move to different city, we move to another house, we separate ourself and we don't want that. That's it. That's what I got for you in this episode. This is one of my most powerful episode that I have published so far, and I loved talking about this. Topic because this is very important topic and there is a habit in our life that we should be very aware, very conscious, very careful.

About this bad habit, and we don't want this bad habit to rob our health, our happiness, our fulfillment, and our success. Instead, we want to live a happy, healthy, fulfilled life. And we do that by building. Better habits, creating routines and being consistent with our habits, routines, and rituals so we can break through in our entrepreneurial life.